How to Process and Release Grief, Loss, and Change

Releasing Grief: How I Empowered Myself Through Magic, Meditation, Herbal Remedies, and Moon Magic

Grief is a natural and profound emotional response to loss. It can stem from a variety of experiences, such as the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, or even the loss of a job, identity, or personal dream. No matter the source, grief has the power to shape us, but it can also feel heavy and overwhelming. By embracing a holistic approach that combines magic, meditation, herbal remedies, and working with the moon's energy, you can empower yourself to release grief and heal. I went through rapid and profound healing within the past two years after losing many people, places, things, and a lifetime of identity loss. The realization of loss of self is very painful when you let go of narcissistic people in your life because you begin to learn who you truly are while releasing what they projected onto you as your identity. I learned how to release my ex-husband of 14 years and that was a long, painful, and much needed release. I felt lost, empty, angry, hurt, scared of consequences, and I feared the unknown without him. I knew it was necessary after he tried to take my life, but he was the only thing I knew. He was my best friend, yet my worst enemy. It was like holding onto the beautiful rose you grew in your garden and worked so hard to grow, yet the thorns of holding onto it tear your skin apart. After lying in bed crying until I could no longer breathe, head pounding, and feeling my heart literally breaking, I knew it was time to find a way out of these intense emotions. I had also simultaneously lost a grandfather, my daily familiar life, my job, and I didn't realize that grieving these things was even necessary. There comes a time where you hate how you feel and you 1. Accept it and let it go 2. Keep living miserable and depressed

until you can't. I chose to push forward with my love of the metaphysical world.

Types of Grief

There are different types of grief, each carrying its unique emotional weight:

1. Anticipatory Grief: This occurs when we foresee a loss before it happens. It could be the expected passing of a loved one due to illness or the end of a phase in life. I found myself doing this with my grandma and grandpa to prepare myself for their passing. It helped "take the edge off", but it also invaded my daily life for months and didn't help me stay present.

2. Normal Grief: The emotional pain and sadness experienced after a loss. While intense, this form of grief tends to lessen over time as healing takes place.

3. Complicated Grief: When grief is prolonged or becomes deeply intertwined with one’s identity, making it difficult to move forward. This type of grief may require deeper spiritual or therapeutic work. This is where I had been for months upon months. It is hard to begin, but we'll worth the work. Finding different healing modalities that work for you is essential and may take time to try differe t approaches like reiki, meditation, crystal healing, rage rooms, scripting, lots of self love, amd typically a combination of all of these things helps best.

4. Disenfranchised Grief: Grief that isn’t socially acknowledged or supported. For example, grief over a miscarriage, loss of a pet, or ending a relationship can sometimes feel minimized by society. I was told to just move on, stop beating a dead horse with a stick, and if they were me they would never have allowed that to happen to them. This made the grieving process more difficult and ongoing as these things were repeated to me constantly. I learned to set firm boundaries with these people and use my voice without lashing out. It really helped me see who was really supportive and those who were not. So, I released them too.

5. Cumulative Grief: Experiencing multiple losses in a short period of time, which can compound the grieving process and make it harder to cope. This is overwhelming and my entire last 2 years was one thing after another. It was a very powerful piece in my transformation. It can be so fucking devastating to go through this and at times feel like you cannot win and won't make it through. This is when you instill affirmations, love yourself through the process, be easy on yourself, and allow the emotions to come. I learned to sit with the feelings and allow them to flow through me so they can get out of my body. Trauma, grief, and big emotions store in our bodies. It manifests as migraines, hip tightness and pain, chest pain, chronic pain, fatigue, and so much more. I went from being tired, sick, and inflamed everywhere with chronic migraines to being calm and well within my own vessel. It feels weird and different.

Whatever form grief takes, it is important to honor the feelings that come with it while seeking ways to release and heal.

Empowering Yourself Through the Process of Release

Grief can be transformed through mindful practices that connect body, mind, and spirit. Here are some tools to empower yourself in the process of release:

1. Magic for Releasing Grief

Magic offers a profound way to work through emotions by allowing you to set intentions, align with nature, and manifest change. Some simple practices include:

Grief Release Ritual: On a waning moon, which is a powerful time for letting go, create a ritual to release your grief. Write down what you’re grieving and place it on an altar or burn it safely as you visualize the grief leaving your heart. Allow the flames or ashes to carry your pain away, symbolizing your willingness to release. I used guided meditations on YouTube for releasing grief and cord cutting.

Crystals: Crystals such as rose quartz, black tourmaline, and amethyst can offer healing support. Rose quartz helps with emotional release, black tourmaline grounds and protects, and amethyst calms the mind. My favorite crystals have been:

1. Selenite is used for energetic healing, cleansing your trauma from the body, and bringing in angelic healing.

2. Amazonite is an amazing heart chakra healing stone and you will your anxiety and heart heaviness begin to lift and a tranquility come into your heart space.

Elemental Magic: Work with the elements to release grief. For example, you might release your sorrow into water (a river or the sea), ask the wind to carry your emotions away, or use fire for transformation and purification. For me, I chose sea salt baths with lavendar, rose, and patchouli essential oils. Sea salt cleanses amd renews energy while the lavender makes you feel calm, relieving anxiety. The rose is uplifting, soothing, and offers self love, passion, and ease. Patchouli is protective and earthy for grounding, staying present, and allowing mother earth to ease your body and mind.

2. Meditation for Grief

Meditation creates space for processing grief without being consumed by it.

Grief Visualization: In a quiet space, close your eyes and take several deep breaths. Imagine your grief as a heavy object in your chest. With each exhale, visualize that object dissolving, turning into light or being carried away by the wind. This practice helps shift the energy of grief from stagnation to movement. YouTube is a lifesaver for guided meditations for release.

Loving-Kindness Meditation: Focus on sending love and compassion to yourself. Grief can make us feel isolated or undeserving of love, but this meditation reminds you that you are worthy of kindness and healing.

3. Herbal Remedies for Grief

Nature offers gentle, healing remedies for emotional balance and grief.

Hawthorn: Known for its heart-healing properties, hawthorn can help ease emotional pain and grief. Drinking hawthorn tea or taking it as a tincture can support the heart through loss.

Skullcap: This herb calms the mind and nervous system, helping to relieve anxiety, overwhelm, or deep sorrow. It can be taken as a tea or tincture.

Rose: Rose is an incredibly nurturing herb, often associated with self-love and healing the heart. A tea made from rose petals or rose water can bring soothing comfort.

Lavender: Lavender is a calming herb that helps to release emotional tension, making it a perfect addition to grief rituals or self-care practices.

I tried to make it an uncompromising ritual to have my herbal tea blend to keep my body well. Not only do these herbs heal the mind, they heal many ailments in the body.

4. Working with the Moon to Release Grief

The moon’s phases offer a powerful framework for processing and releasing grief. The lunar cycle can guide your journey from mourning to empowerment:

New Moon: This is a time for setting intentions for healing. During the new moon, reflect on your grief and what you hope to release. Write down your intentions for healing, clarity, and emotional release.

Waxing Moon: As the moon grows, use this phase to nurture yourself. Focus on self-care, seek support from loved ones, and practice daily rituals to strengthen your emotional resilience.

Full Moon: The full moon is the time of culmination. Use its light to fully acknowledge your grief. This is the moment to let your emotions rise to the surface. Meditate under the moon’s glow, asking for healing and clarity. Then release it with intention of allowing in the healing energies.

Waning Moon: The waning moon is all about letting go. This is the perfect time for a grief release ritual. As the moon shrinks in size, focus on allowing your grief to diminish as well. Visualize your pain leaving your body, making room for new beginnings and emotional renewal. I found the releasing process is needed at the full moon and the waning moon as the grief may need additional releasing.

I created a workbook for tracking my moon work and it also includes a checklist for what to do, cleanse, releasing, intentions, etc.

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Embracing the Healing Journey

Grief is a journey, not a destination. It moves in cycles, much like the phases of the moon. By integrating magic, meditation, herbal remedies, and lunar energy into your healing process, you can transform your grief into empowerment and strength.

Remember, releasing grief doesn’t mean forgetting what you’ve lost—it means making space for your own growth, healing, and the ability to move forward with love in your heart. Give yourself the time and grace needed, and know that healing is possible.