We Need to See Each Other

This world is insanely hectic and our lives require constant attention directed at our own needs. Society is brutal. How many times have you went out to run an errand and you get irritated with human behavior? You might experience aggravation through thoughts or outbursts thinking, "Why is that person driving like an idiot?" or "Oh my God this line is taking forever. Why is that lady just standing there moving like a snail?!" This amped up energy is all around us and it is contagious. Humans naturally project these feelings onto those around them in the immediate circumstance. We are all guilty of this. Have you ever said something rude to someone due to your own concept of time and how you believe it should be going? Then that person says, "Sorry, my husband just died and I can't think straight," or "I am so sorry, my son has autism and it takes us minute." How did that make you feel in that moment? Did you think about it later and regret saying the rude thing? Most of us do, if we have a heart.

My point here is that embracing our day from a new perspective can change how we think, act, and receive. Try this next time you are out and you find yourself getting impatient with someone. Take a deep breath and reflect on what is going to happen realistically if that line isn't moving at the pace you think it should be moving? Probably not much. What if you meet a new connection? What if the person if front you pays for your bill? Rather than focus on the negative of being late or just simply having to stand and wait...try switching your thoughts. Everyone is there for a reason and they probably don't want to wait either. One man might be super grumpy while the man in front of him is smiling and talking to the person in front of them. Take advantage of the still time to reflect. You wait and be angry or you can wait and be grateful for being able to be there to begin with. However, placing judgment on the grumpy man is not okay either. See past their face and their behavior and use your energy to fill out the situation. What if that man just lost his dog and he is nervous about his pup coming home while he isn't there to let him inside? What if the lady who is yelling at the cashier because her card declined is terrified of how she will feed her kids without it. Even though it isn't the cashier's fault, that lady is panicked, scared, and lost. What if we saw it for what it was...we are human and we are all experiencing different things that create the behavior we exude. An empath noticing this lady's yelling at the cashier may pick up on her fear and pay for her bill. That proves to the single mother that good things can happen and support exists within her world. With a smile on her face, she apologizes to the cashier explaining her situation. Embarrassed, she walks to her car to put her groceries inside and she sees an elderly lady struggling next to her. Rather than being angry, panicked, and focused on how to feed her kids, she is now excited to help this lady because a shift in her matrix occurred to raise her vibration.

See people for who their soul is rather than how their reality is effecting you. Take yourself and your wants and needs out of the equation. Emotion doesn't need to define who we are and how we act. We can go through our days as observers experiencing emotional moments that we are aware of and we can navigate. This allows us to stay present and see things for what they truly are. It allows us to take a step into someone else's shoes for just a moment long enough to avoid our own self pity.

So, go out into your world today and try this new perspective to make a difference. Be grateful you have a car to drive in that slow traffic. Be grateful you have the ability to wait in line at the coffee shop while someone sleeps on the ground behind it wishing for a place to lay their head that is comfortable. See a struggling mother trying her best with her over-sensored children rather than critique her parenting. Give the saddest person a compliment, make one up if you can't see anything to compliment. See how it changes your feelings and theirs. See people.

I had to learn this through experiencing this from every angle. I was the impatient one calling people stupid when I was younger. I was the angry mother who couldn't feed her kids. I was the abused woman that had a time frame to hurry back home or there were consequences, so I was antsy and impatient. I am the mother of special needs children that gets watched in the stores during meltdowns being judged for having "bad kids". I am the happy person in the line that learned by being judged myself that it's okay to wait AND still be happy. I had to learn patience and it was not learned easily. I never understood other pespectives until I was put in that position myself and it put me on my ass. I was humbled quickly as a young adult. I was homeless while people assumed I was a drug addicted loser who refused to work. In reality, I was a college student that lost financial aid for med school with a GPA of 4.00 and abused. I lost myself. I never picked up a drug and I am smarter than most people out here driving the fancy cars and living in the nice houses. We cannot judge people because you just don't know. So see people.